Online Dating

Taking your Online Relationship Offline

Allison Dienstman

Online Dating Editor

So you’ve met someone great online? Great! Now comes the tricky part - taking your online relationship offline.

Here are a few Do’s and Don’ts to take into consideration

1. Keep it casual - I sometimes find that keeping it casual while conversing online on an online dating site or social platform is one of the most important steps in ensuring that you score an offline meet up. Why? Well, it is important to keep your conversations light so that you don’t come off as too needy or demanding. Also, you want to avoid sounding creepy or ‘stalkerish’ or he or she won’t agree to meet. Keep things light, try to avoid discussing overly intimate, heavy duty subjects like previous relationships and try and keep the discussion relatively platonic (with a subtle flirtatious undertone, of course).

2. Avoid using the D-word - When you do suggest an offline meet up, try and avoid using the word ‘Date’, that’ll keep things casual and won’t raise anyone’s’ expectations. Avoiding the D-word will also work well at (hopefully) weeding out the individuals who are just looking to hook up on the first date.

3. Don’t wait too long to suggest a date - Don’t miss your window of opportunity. If the individual on the other end of the conversation shows interest, don’t hesitate to suggest a casual meetup at a place and time that is somewhat platonic (for example meet in the daytime at a coffee shop), but that could evolve into a more serious date if there’s a click.

4. Finally, make sure you have an exit strategy - In case the date doesn’t go as planned, or he or she isn’t what you were expecting, make sure that you have a  (tactful!) way out and that you can leave at any time with minimum damage done to your date’s feelings.