Online Dating

What to Say on a Dating Site - Do’s and Don’ts

Allison Dienstman

Online Dating Editor

How many times have you gone on a date after meeting a potential match on one of the top online dating sites, only to find out that the person you were meeting misrepresented him or herself?

Last night, I went out on a blind date after having met and chatted with a single guy who piqued my interest on a reputable dating site. He told me he was a college graduate, well-educated, self-employed and, most importantly that he was 6 ft tall. I say ‘most importantly’ because I am rather tall myself and find that men have a hard time dating a woman who is taller than they are.

We met at a local coffee shop and, to my not so great surprise, I was immediately confronted with the apparent fact that he had misrepresented himself with regards to his height. I was unperturbed but he was visibly agitated, claiming that he did not feel comfortable dating a taller woman. Needless to say, I was disappointed and felt that my time had been wasted.

So who's to blame? I was truthful about my height while he fibbed about his, yet he made me feel as though I was to blame for the unsuccessful date.

This failed attempt at online dating made me wonder: What to say on dating sites? And, what are some of the more common fibs told by dating site members that you should really watch out for?

This led to some research…

Have you always wondered how the opposite sex experiences the dating world?

And the 3 top online dating lies are…

1) They say they're taller than they actually are - this, from experience, can be a real ‘date-deterrent’.

2) They say their photos are more up-to-date than they actually are - so, you may think you are dating Chad, a 22-year-old with an athletic build, while you’ll actually be meeting Chad, a 32-year-old, balding, out of shape banker.

3) They say they make more money than they actually do - I always ask for a bank statement before I agree to date someone, don’t you? (says I, in a heavily sarcastic tone). I understand the need to build oneself up when trying to attract a mate online, but I don’t see the point in dating anyone who, number one: would ask how much you make, and, number two: wouldn’t date you unless you earned a certain figure.

My conclusion? I’d keep dating online. A few setbacks are not enough to deter me from giving these online dating sites a chance. However, I will be more careful with who I agree to meet and who I date.